3 WAYS TO TACKLE IMPOSTER SYNDROME

Many people don’t recognise when they have imposter syndrome.

It creeps up, like a thief in the night and settles in when you aren’t looking.

Certain situations bring it to the forefront.  Stress is its best friend.

So – you have to make that pitch or presentation. You have it planned, written, practiced and there you are, comparing yourself to others. Negatively. 

What runs through our head – ‘ I’m not good enough’ and the anxiety and self-doubt gets hold.

Imposter syndrome is defined by Psychology Today as ‘a pattern of behaviour where people doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent, often internalised fear of being exposed as a fraud.  Despite evidence of accomplishments, people with imposter syndrome are convinced that they don’t deserve the success they have’.  

Imposter syndrome also occurs in personal relationships, affecting both men and women. Reportedly, Prince Charles did not feel good enough for his parents.  Parents that withdraw their presence or affection leave a child feeling unloved and unworthy and it can affect their adult relationships. 

However imposter syndrome is experienced, it can be very limiting for one’s life and opportunities for happiness and success. 

3 ways to manage Imposter Syndrome

1. Learn to spot it.   Our negative thoughts whisper – are you sure you can do this?  Catch that thought when you have self-doubt. What was the thought again? I can’t do this? Perhaps look at why you were asked to perform/take on the job/speak in public in the first place. Who approached you and why? The evidence of your ability may be in the request. Why were you invited/asked/welcomed? Then list 3 aspects on which you feel weaker and an action to manage each of these. For instance, having a clear strong voice can be helped by rehearsing on Zoom or with family members – even children! 

2. Learn to love it. True, you don’t know everything in the universe, but you may well know enough. The self-doubt can actually be very helpful. It can stop you from feeling overconfident and glib which can come across as arrogant.  It’s your risk manager suggesting you might like to tighten up a few areas, or find out a little more about your audience or your task through dialogue or meaningful questions. 

3. Listen outwardly as well as inwardly. Your managers, mentors, and colleagues will have vouched for you, and your friends will have been there for you, In fact, your life is a testimony to your achievements. The inner voice may need reminding, so write down an alternative version. 

I can achieve this because I am […capable]

I know my […environment] 

I have a […purpose]

Insert the words that represent your truth. Then give it your all.

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